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Month One–It gets better!

It’s been a little over one month since my precious princess was born, and it’s been hard, fun, upsetting, and a learning experience, but I have learned, it does  get better!

Week One: M was born after 36 hours of labor. She had a minor fever after birth and a mild heart murmur, so they ran all sorts of extra tests. I was freaking out. I was upset. I was scared. Her fever was attributed to me having 3 epidurals, and her EKG and blood pressure tests all came back normal. She didn’t like to latch on the right side, so my nipple had 2 small blisters and a crack, making it really hard to nurse her on that side due to pain. By day 6, her heart murmur was much more quiet, and I cried almost as much as her when she got her first Hep B vaccine.  She woke up every hour to eat or just fuss.
Week Two: She started sleeping a little better, but not if we had her out during the day; going out for visits to Grandpa and Grandma G’s farm meant no sleep at night. My nipple healed and nursing on the right side became tolerable. My pain from labor, however, was still intolerable. Still using padsicles (I’ll be adding a post about these very soon!), still using Dermoplast spray with the blue top (ahhhhh heaven in a can!), still using lidocaine gel. By a full 2 weeks old, her heart murmur was almost silent.
Week Three: M started waking up only 2-3 times a night, except when we go out. She loves snuggle time with Daddy, but also loves to pull his beard and chest hair. We’ve tried 4 types of bottles so Daddy can feed her, but she won’t take any of them. I’m lucky if I can get a 5 minute shower. By the end of the week, I finally feel good enough to leave the house and bring her to Opa and Kitty’s (my dad and stepmom), Grandpa R’s (father in law), Grandma Peach’s (grandmother in law), and even out to Pizza Hut with a friend of mine and her one year old
Week Four: M started the week fussy and ended it fussy. She also got a rash from using Huggies Lil’ Snugglers, and it has yet to go away, despite trying all sorts of stuff. For the fussiness, we tried gas drops, we tried extra burping, we tried lots of extra snuggles. The only thing that has worked has been snuggles. Needless to say, I have gotten nothing done, but at least my pain was gone and she still ate great. M has started giggling in her sleep, which makes all the fussiness worth it. She also weighs 10lbs 14 oz, which means she is up 1lb 8oz since birth!

While there were ups and downs with each week that went by, it gradually got better. She started sleeping better, I learned more about her and her needs, and we (her father and I) have had some great bonding time with our little girl. While it was pretty hard at times, it got a lot better than it was when we first brought her home. It just takes a while to learn about your baby, adjust to your baby, and for your baby to learn you and learn being outside of the womb. Frustrating as it can be, it does get better!

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“You’re so unprepared!”

I grew up around younger kids and babies. Hell, I babysat a 9 month old when I was 8! Well, babysat for like a half an hour. But still. And for the first 2 years of my little brothers life I was there for everything; he was born when I was 14 (and awkard…and only had 2 close friends), so I helped with a lot of stuff, including staying home from school if he was sick. I’ve been around babies. I’ve had experience.

That being said, I’m a first time mom. And as a first time mom, I was worried about everything when I was pregnant. Not just with what was happening to and in my body, but with preparing for our daughters arrival. Having been so concerned about whether or not we had what we needed, I looked for guidance from some of the women in my family (who happen to live in MA, while my husband and I live in WI). When I told them what I had, I got laughed at. I had:

  • 6 packs of size 1 diapers
  • 1 pack of newborn diapers
  • 10 newborn onesies
  • 2 newborn pants
  • 5 newborn sleepers
  • 25-30 0-3 month onesies
  • 12 0-3 month pants
  • 3 0-3 month sweaters
  • 5 0-3 month dresses/rompers
  • 15 blankets
  • 15 receiving blankets for use as burp rags
  • 3 things of wipes containing 64 wipes each
  • 1 economy case of wipes containing 448 wipes
  • 1 big bottle and small bottle of lotion
  • 1 big bottle and one normal bottle of baby wash
  • 3 towels, 14 washcloths
  • 1 tube of Desitin, 1 tube of Desitin petroleum jelly.

Plus the crib, pack and play with bassinet setting, a swing, 2 bouncer/vibratey chairs, 2 nursing pillows, and all my breastfeeding supplies. And I will repeat it: I GOT LAUGHED AT! I was told that I was “so naive” and that I “had no clue what I was getting myself into”.

Not only did I feel embarrassed that I asked, but I felt like an inadequate mother, and it made my husband feel like an inadequate father and provider. I went out and bought a few more newborn-size sleepers (despite having been told by my midwife to “expect at least an 8 pound baby” if I had her at my due date, despite me being almost 10 pounds, and despite my husband being 11lb 4oz). I got 3 more pairs of 0-3 month pants. I considered buying more newborn diapers, but I decided that if we needed them, I would have my husband get them while I was in the hospital still.

Well, I had a 9lb 4 oz baby 2 weeks after my due date. Newborn diapers didn’t fit her, not even at the hospital. Newborn onesies? Out of the question! Newborn pants fit, just because she kept her little legs all scrunched up. So going out and buying that extra stuff? Pointless.

She’s now 1 month old, still wearing 0-3 month stuff, and we haven’t even gone through all the size 1 diapers yet. We have yet to use up the little bottle of lotion (despite putting it on her daily), and have yet to use even half of the normal size bottle of baby wash. She has worn most of her 0-3 sleepers, and maybe 6 of her onesies, and 4 pairs of pants. That’s it.  I should have trusted my gut instinct, and stuck with what we had. Don’t get me wrong, advice can be great, but sometimes you already know what you need or what’s best.

Moral #1: Trust your instincts, momma!

Moral #2: You don’t need a crazy amount of stuff when you bring home baby. Sure, it’s nice to have a lot, but prioritize–get more of what your little one will wear (like sleepers, in my case) and less of the other stuff (seriously…30 onesies in ONE SIZE!?) in order to save space and money.

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